Narcissism
What is a Narcissist you may ask?
Well, a Narcissist is person suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). It's a mental disorder in which the person in question suffers from an inflated sense of self-importance and the condition is found to affect more men than women.
The actual cause of NPD is unknown but speculation and physiological studies dictate that it —more likely than not— involves a combination of both genetic and environmental factors.
Since NDP affects men to a larger degree, one could say that they're suffer from "Mummy issues" and in the case of women, say they suffer from "Daddy issues". But that isn't cast in stone as you will discover further down in this text.
Narcissistic symptoms include an unrealistic sense of grandiose, an excessive need for admiration, generally displays a total disregard for others' feelings, have an inability to handle any criticism, have a sense of entitlement, are quick to anger, are extremely argumentative, always want to control the situation and loves conflict and drama, among so many other issues.
NPD is a disorder that needs to be diagnosed by a professional because treatment involves talk therapy. Unfortunately Narcissists are unaware that its a mental condition nor that they suffering from it, though they fully understand what they do without remorse.
Very much, like you and me, all narcissists do have different personalities, however their abusive behavior in remarkably similar in character bordering on characteristics and attributes that their can almost be classified as traits.
The following is a short list of hardwired Narcissistic traits or algorithm of abuse.
a) Have grandiose assertions and live their lives in pretense as if true, by leaching off others;
b) Endlessly seek attention and admiration/adoration;
c) Publicly charismatic and very charming but gives appalling treatment of family when there is no audience;
d) Present a aire of entitlement and expect special treatment;
e) Inflated ego, giving the impression of being special even superior to others;
f) Always needs to dress up and look the "Belle of the Ball"
g) Spends their earnings on themselves contributes very little of nothing to household;
h) Have sudden mood swings with their partner but are fine with everyone else;
i) An inability to share attention with others, even their own children;
j) Thrives on conflict, are arrogant & abusive to “underlings,” viz, waiters and cashiers;
k) Suffer from hidden trauma;
l) Had multiple failed marriages through cheating;
m)Eager to control others, and the situation and deflect blame and accountability;
n) Arrogant, bragging, lying, gaslighting;
o) Argumentative, verbally abusive even rude;
p) Scapegoating “loved” ones and refusal to take responsibility;
q) Adamant denial in the face of blatant truth;
r) Indifference to others' illness, loss or misfortune;
s) Impatient and anger easily and have selfish motives of ownership;
t) Pitting family members, against one another to divide and conquer;
t) Mock, ridicule and shame others under the guise of “teasing” to gain an advantage and feel superior;
People unfamiliar with NPD and narcissistic abuse generally find the above list —which is by no means complete — incomprehensible. This is because the narcissist's moral compass is broken hence difficult for those without direct experience of narcissistic abuse
to imagine how narcissists can present an image of normalcy to outsiders.
But narcissists are expert at keeping their skeletons in the closet, often presenting themselves as devoted family members fooling onlookers unaware of their morally bankrupt behavior in their domestic setting.
