LIFE PARTNER SPOUSE POOL
According to Tom Hanks in the movie Forrest Gump, his Mama says "Life was like a box of chocolates" but I think Life is like a mixed bag of licorice, since it take all sort to make a world. Many people say love is overrated, especially those who got burnt by love which consequently makes them averse to marriage. But for those who do marry, throughout their courting period they posed questions, spoke of the future, shared stories, always assessing each other and getting to know one another's peculiarities, shortcomings, likes and dislike.
When they finally chose their life partner for marriage, little did they know of each other's past except that which was voluntarily divulged. Yet, they put your best foot forward based on their trust and married their future partner, only to find out later that they may have made the wrong choice. But there are exceptions, because more people get married and stay married than people who separate or divorce.
Incompatibility is always the common denominator because your spouse could be the product of divorced parents, often feeling a sense of guilt as if responsible for the divorce. Or you life partner could be inherently scared, having suffered abuse during childhood and don't want to be scared anymore, making your marriage the battle ground of his or her dilemma.
Fear can have a profound effect on marriage, among which are arachnophobia, ophidiophobia, acrophobia, glossophobia, etc, resulting in introversion and social phobias and lack of self worth. This could impact on their interaction with the new extended family and the new circle of friends, enough to anger and frustrate the ass-mousse out of you. This can easily turn you into a social outcast brought about by social embarrassment.
Then there are those who suffer from uncontrolled emotions allowing the situation to dictate their behaviour rather than behave according to the situation. Jealousy and possessiveness is a key example of delusional behaviour which does often lead to physical abuse to their partner. And the list goes on.
Then there are those who suffer from uncontrolled emotions allowing the situation to dictate their behaviour rather than behave according to the situation. Jealousy and possessiveness is a key example of delusional behaviour which does often lead to physical abuse to their partner. And the list goes on.
Contending with mood swings is probably one of the most difficult situations to comprehend because you can't determine what they want from you because they are clouded by their self anger. Constantly upset and mood swings can border on mental disorder even schizophrenia which can result in self mutilation and even suicide.
They say geniuses speak to themselves but crazy people answer themselves and these are often those people who suffer from acute anxiety and feel socially isolated. Then there are those who are forever cursing and blaming others for their inabilities to handle their own daemons. Many people are affected by the scourge of drugs and alcohol which gives rise to kleptomania, thievery and violence. Knowing they have a problem, they start to self medicate with across-the-counter-drugs until they become addicted.
They say geniuses speak to themselves but crazy people answer themselves and these are often those people who suffer from acute anxiety and feel socially isolated. Then there are those who are forever cursing and blaming others for their inabilities to handle their own daemons. Many people are affected by the scourge of drugs and alcohol which gives rise to kleptomania, thievery and violence. Knowing they have a problem, they start to self medicate with across-the-counter-drugs until they become addicted.
There are countless of women whose wedding rings and diamond jewelry were stolen by their own drug addicted husbands who pawns it at the local drug merchant just to get a fix. And the same applies to women who delve into prostitution just to be able to buy a fix. In most cases these drugs make them crazier than they really are and heaven help their spouses. Then there those with speech impediments or are physical disability, who are angry at the entire world, blaming them for their condition.
These are just some of the idiosyncrasies that spouses have to deal with every minute of every hour, seven days a week, 365. Celexa (citalopram), Lexapro (escitalopram), Paxil / Pexeva (paroxetine), Luvox (fluvoxamine), Oleptro (trazodone), Zoloft (sertraline), Prozac (fluoxetine), belongs to a class of anti depressant drugs called "selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors" (SSRIs) which can help relieve some of these human conditions, mentioned above.
These are just some of the idiosyncrasies that spouses have to deal with every minute of every hour, seven days a week, 365. Celexa (citalopram), Lexapro (escitalopram), Paxil / Pexeva (paroxetine), Luvox (fluvoxamine), Oleptro (trazodone), Zoloft (sertraline), Prozac (fluoxetine), belongs to a class of anti depressant drugs called "selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors" (SSRIs) which can help relieve some of these human conditions, mentioned above.
But should only be taken on the advice of a registered psychotherapist after a total assessment. Before taking that leap of faith, ask the right questions, do your due diligence. And when the alarms go off, its time to exit gracefully, before it comes to marriage. They say "an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure" and that has never been truer when it comes to choosing a life partner because a moment of folly can give rise to life of misery.
